1 – We agreed: Careers first. No Commitment
I once crossed Africa with a woman I wasn’t supposed to get attached to. In April 1986, I relocated to Munich to start a software
2 – Munich. 1986.
As I checked into the residential hotel where I would spend my first month in Munich, I asked the receptionist whether it was safe to
3 – The Indispensable Colleague
An attractive young woman stood in the doorway of my office. She wore little makeup and was dressed strictly for business. “Falkenberg. Sprechen wir Englisch
4 -My Mind Is German, But My Heart Is Argentine
Swimming in Air: Week 4 Weeks later, Ms. Falkenberg and I met at a café in the city center. I had missed my regular lesson,
5 – Like an Argentine Tango
Our Chianti had barely arrived when Vivian said, “You know, I’m not interested in anything serious.” I half expected the topic to come up that
6 – Now I Live to Live
In early summer, Vivian took me to a tearoom called the Friesische Teestube, the Frisian tea café. Tucked into a quiet corner of Schwabing, not
7 – Men Just Seem to Wander
One late-summer Munich morning in 1986, Vivian and I were walking to the Alte Pinakothek art museum, and I made the mistake of questioning her
8 – I’ve Never Seen a Proton Either
A week later, Vivian and I walked to the small Kleinhesseloher See at the north end of the Englischer Garten, rented a paddle boat, and
9 – Shut The Engine Off
As summer gave way to the chilly German fall, I stopped by Vivian’s apartment one Friday to pick her up for a date and found
10 – I Guess I Still Have Work to Do
TW: Sexual Assault “I was eighteen, nearly finished with high school, riding the bus home from the Goethe Schule. Four years earlier, I was proud
11 – The Problem is When I’m That Person I’m Happy
Vivian rented a room from an East German refugee named Ansgar. In early November, Ansgar’s girlfriend unexpectedly returned from an overseas assignment and found him
12 – Tomas
In May, Vivian’s mother, Astrid, called from Buenos Aires. “Good news!” Vivian exclaimed with a smile after she hung up. “Mutti’s coming to visit at
13 – Fired
In midsummer of 1987, I was fired. A British firm acquired ExaSoft’s home office and decided to merge my Munich operation into its London office.
14 – The Difficulty of Doing Nothing
What follows is a scene that didn’t make it through editing — not because it isn’t true, but because it’s full of details about preparing
15 – Cairo
Backpacking on a budget, you often have no clear idea where you will end up or how long it will take you to get there,
16 – Living the Dream
We were jolted awake by a loud, mournful wail from just outside our window. Vivian sat upright, wide-eyed. “What’s that?” “I think it’s the first
17 – Why the First Deities Were Sun Gods
What follows is a scene that didn’t make it through editing — not because it isn’t true, but because you can’t tell everything. If it’s
18 – In Ägypten
Vivian wrote this in German on Christmas Eve, on the flight between Cairo and Nairobi. Ameen was a Nubian of Cairo who became our mentor
19 – Mrs. Roche’s
I woke to the captain’s announcement that we would shortly be landing at Nairobi’s Jomo Kenyatta International Airport. Vivian was sound asleep and using my
20 – Misunderstanding Lions
Week 20: Misunderstanding Lions “How is Dahab these days? I remember it well.” The speaker was an imposing six-foot-four man with dark brown hair, a